How to Deal with a Difficult Boss
Life Transition Coach Diane Dennis had advice for dealing with a difficult boss.
Types of difficult bosses
1. My way or the highway (Tyrant)
2. You can't do anything right (Persecutor)
3. Your ideas are his ideas (Idea Thief)
When your boss is a Tyrant. He acts superior, puts you down, discounts your ideas, and is always right. They also interrogate you to find personal information to use against you. This is institutionalized bullying. Some states are working on creating laws for workplace bullying.
Symptoms: pain, frustration, anger, feeling marginalized, or depression.
What to Do:
1. Set boundaries. When he starts bullying, excuse yourself to go to the restroom.
When your boss is a Persecutor. You can’t do anything right. What you do is below his standards. He begins to pick at everything you do. A persecutor is a rescuer in disguise.
Symptoms: You feel like you are going crazy.
What to do:
1. Do not act like a victim: apologizing, succumbing to his challenges
When your boss is an idea thief. Whatever idea you have, he takes credit for it. You can say something, and he will actually say no, that is not right, then tell you “his” idea which is exactly your idea only in different words.
Symptoms: You feel angry, resentful, demeaned
What to do:
1. Put your ideas in writing and date them.