Life Lessons to Unlearn

Self-esteem coach Laure Redmond, author of Feel Good Naked, joined us to sharre the 7 Life Lessons You Should Unlearn:

Sadly, we are constantly bombarded with messages and ideas that actually destroy our opportunity to live a joyful, happy life. Here are my favorite life lessons to unlearn today:

  1. Problems are bad:  Problems carry the seeds to solutions. For example, job burnout is steering you toward a new career. That awful relationship is teaching you what love means. Those confusing tax forms are telling you to hire an accountant.
  2. Pretty girls get all the good stuff:  So not true. Yes, pretty people might get preferential treatment, but here’s the catch: While everyone’s looking at them, virtually nobody really see’s them. Furthermore, if your looks are your only true green card, what happens as you begin to age!
  3. I’m irreparably damaged by my past:  Even though painful events leave scars, these scars should not direct our lives. If you cut your hand and get stitches, eventually you only remember the injury when you look at the scar; you don’t continue to curb the use of your hand after it heals. Try this same approach with your brain, minus the drama.
  4. If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect:  People who have what you want are all over rehab clinics, divorce courts and jails. That’s because too much good fortune can carry serious side effects. Any external thing we depend on to make us feel good has the same power to make us feel bad. Instead, genuinely become as joyful as you think that thing would make you. The joy, not the thing, is the reward.
  5. Loss is terrible:  Unfortunately loss can be our greatest teacher. It’s never fun to go through loss, however loss teaches the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing.
  6. It matters what people think of me:  Right this second, imagine what you’d do if it absolutely did not matter what other people thought of you. In other words, what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?
  7. Success is the opposite of failure:  From quitting smoking to learning how to dance, we succeed to the degree we try, fail and learn. Studies prove that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.

For more information, visit Laure's website.  Want more inspiration?  Laure will be the keynote speaker at two events in October:

  • Saturday, 10/2 - Providence Willamette Falls Women's Health Fair
  • Laure Redmond's keynote topic: "Wake Up Your Precious Life: This Is Not a Dress Rehearsal"
  • Tickets & info: 503-650-6805 or visit this website
  • Saturday, 10/23 - A Day of Inspiration, sponsored by Women in Spiritual Harmony
  • Laure Redmond's keynote topic: "How To Love The Skin You're In"
  • Tickets & Info


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