Alan Fine, author of the New York Times bestseller, "You Already Know How to Be Great," is a performance expert who has helped everyone from professional athletes to business executives reach their goals. He joined us today to help us get back on track with our New Year's Resolutions.
Alan Fine’s PARTNER-UP PLAN:
Every January we make New Year’s resolutions, and after a few months, we’ve already lost steam. How can we make this year different, and stick to our goals?
Find a partner and help each other with Alan Fine’s time-tested method – the GROW Model. Establish this mutually beneficial relationship—free to you both—and you’ll help each other reach your goals in 2011.
Select your partner.
• The ideal partner is someone who satisfies two criteria: will respectfully tell it as they see it no matter how it might make you feel; can stay neutral and have the discipline to stay with the process
• Based on this, your best partner is likely to be an acquaintance – someone you trust and feel comfortable with, but aren’t particularly close to. Consider former colleagues, industry contacts (that you don’t currently do business with), a friend of a friend.
Try your first coaching session.
• First, agree on the logistics of your session. Discuss each other’s preferences regarding location (in person or over the phone), time frame (somewhere between 30 minutes and 2 hours, depending on the scope of the challenge), and your “rules of engagement” (confidentiality, what can and can’t be said or revisited, what might be off limits).
• Use the GROW Questionnaire (below) in a disciplined but flexible way. Answering these questions will help you determine your GOAL (what you want to do), REALITY (the circumstances you’re dealing with), OPTIONS (how you might move from your Reality to your Goal), and WAY FORWARD (what action you want to take).
• Make sure you leave with a plan of action – your Way Forward. It must be S.M.A.R.T. – Specific, Meaningful, Agreed to, Realistic, and Time-phased – in order for you to effectively execute the plan.
Assess your progress.
• Agree on how you will know if the coaching sessions are worthwhile. What will each partner see, hear, feel and think after a successful session? What will be different, what will you do more of, less of or differently?
• Determine what accountability looks like for each of you. What kind of follow-up do you want (regularly scheduled progress reports? Informal phone calls? Inspirational text messages? Rewards/consequences?) And how “tough” do you want to be with each other? Are there any consequences for not following through on the plan?
The G.R.O.W. Model
What issue do I want to work through?
What do I want from this GROW “session” (meaning time devoted to resolving the issue)?
What are the consequences if I do not take action?
Briefly, what’s been happening?
What have I tried so far?
What were the results?
What’s my sense of the obstacles for me? For others (if others are involved)?
What different way might others describe this situation?
Is my goal still realistic?
If I could do anything to make progress on this issue, what might I do?
If others are involved, what would they need to see or hear to get their attention?
If I were watching myself work through this issue, what would I recommend?
Do any of these options interest me enough to explore further?
If I were to act on this/these chosen option(s), how might I go about it?
Do any of these option(s) interest me enough to take action?
How will I go about it?
What might get in my way?
How might I overcome that?
What and when is the next step?
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