Marriage is like a mirror being constantly held up in front of you.  Many people are shocked to discover the magnitude of personal lessons learned throughout a marriage. More than half of all marriages fail and while some people are not meant to work through a lifetime as partners, others discard unions with real potential because unresolved or misunderstood self-esteem issues get in the way.

Self-esteem coach Laure Redmond, author of Feel Good Naked, joined us with some crucial questions to ask yourself to help clarify whether or not your relationship, albeit not perfect, is worth a good go:

1. Are there conflicts that you’ve avoided in the relationship? What do you fear would happen if you confronted them?
2. Are you exaggerating the negatives? If you’re not sure, for the next month mark the good and bad days on your calendar to get a reality check.
3. Do you simply need more time alone?
4. Have you already left the marriage by emotionally withdrawing? Or by giving up all attempts to make the relationship better ~ such as individual counseling, marriage education class or couples therapy.
5. Have you been sending your partner the wrong lessons by not challenging their hurtful behavior? Example ~ you don’t say anything when criticized in public or when doing the dishes one more time while he watches television. Silence = death.
6. If you’re frustrated that your partner won’t change, is it really necessary that they do? What about you and your vows of “I do” ~ what do you do (based on your own family history) that may be driving your need to transform your partner?
7. Do you have fun together? Can you make time in your marriage for more play?
8. Are you afraid of being alone?

For more information on creating a healthier mind/body connection, visit Laure's website.