Help for Distracted Teens
Multi-tasking is common for teens, often doing facebook, listening to music and skyping wiht friends at the same time. But can they really handle it? Yshai Boussi, a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in adolescents and couples, joined us with tips to help us help our teens.
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10 Important Things To Consider If Your Teen Is Easily Distracted
We don't have to tell you that this generation of teens have taken the concept of multitasking to a level never seen before. At any given moment you may catch your teen facebooking, texting, IMing, talking, listening, studying, eating, drinking, reading, walking, dancing, building, crocheting, drawing, flying an airplane and getting their chores done. OK, maybe not the chores.
For most teens, this is just how it is now. While there are pro's and con's to so much multitasking, many teens can handle it and do just fine. However, if you have a teen that has ADHD or is easily distracted, their reality is different. The world that these teens inhabit typically feels more stressful and overwhelming. If they don't get specific types of support and encouragement, they often end up wondering why they can't do things as easily as everyone else seems to. This leads to feeling embarrassed and inadequate which can end with giving up and acting like they don't care as a way to save face.
You've surely put some time thinking about this already. Below are 10 thoughts we hope you'll consider for your distracted teen.
1. Don't focus on whether or not they have ADD/ADHD.
2.They don't have the skills to do many of the things they're expected to on a daily basis.
3. They're more frustrated with this than you are.
4. They need active and ongoing help with organization in all areas of their life.
5. Don't try to do it all yourself.
6. Figure out what their complimentary strengths are.
7. They may require movement and activity on a daily basis.
8. They probably aren't as clear about your expectations as you are.
9. You may need to take better care of yourself and have more breaks.
10. It has nothing to do with you. Reread our previous article about temperament if you're still feeling guilty. It's highly likely that this has been a struggle for your child from a young age and is just part of the way their brain works. If you've noticed your teen's struggles with attention only recently, then there maybe some external sources of stress that are contributing to it. In this case, do your best to talk with your child in an open and non-blaming way about your observations and concerns. If that doesn't seem to help than it's probably a good idea to see a family therapist.
We get how frustrating it can be when your child just doesn't seem to try or care. This problem isn't about you or them. Your teen is an intelligent and capable individual with many strengths and one who may need to work a bit harder and receive some extra support to stay focused and organized. Hang in there. We'd love to here any comments you have on our blog.