Are you sad to be leaving or are you happy? Either way you're going to have to deal with something when going away. So... now, let us help you move "successfully."
Today we spoke with life and relationship coach, Diane, who had helpful tips for making a successful transition when it’s time for moving. The emphasis is usually on the physical move. Transition in moving includes:
- Get your emotionally charged belongings and things of sentimental value taken care of first; review and deal with them in the beginning. Most people put these things last because they resist going to the emotional place these things will illicit. Examples: Letters from grandma who died, pictures of family members and memories of the life you had in the home you are leaving. Some people have pets buried in the backyard. Children will want to revisit the "graves" and say goodbye. China that you inherited, childrens baby clothes. Anything like this should be brought out first. And, then while you are planning and packing for the move the doorway to the emotion(s) has been opened and you can deal with it along the way, instead of having it hit you the day before you leave.
- Say goodbye to friends and family who you are leaving. Don't put it off until the last week. Start a ritual of saying goodbye in different ways: cofffee dates, sending email notes, have goodbye parties. Even people you see once a month for services should not be left out as we don't realize how much they mean to us until we are gone: example: Your esthetician you go to for waxing monthly has become a friend. Exchange email addresses and keep in contact. It will take some time before new relationships are forged, in the meantime, it can be lonely.
- Make sure your pets have a safe transition. During the physical move keep them contained as they can become emotionally affected, disoriented. Make sure safe containments are in place on the other end of the move (fences, doggie doors, etc)
- Before you move get referrals for services you will need from: Real Estate Agents, Chamber of Commerce, Some real estate agents may have contact with relocation specialists. Also, subscribe to the local paper, magazine, publications before you move to get to know the community issues, attitudes, concerns and entertainment possibilities (This will give you something to talk about when you meet people in your new area.
- f you have kids in school contact the new school and plan for the kids to visit the school before they start, have them meet classmates, get to know the parents beforehand, enroll them in soccer, boy scouts, or social groups before the actual move and make contact so that it isn't a shock. Get addresses, phone numbers and email addresses of your kids friends if they don't already have them and encourage them to keep in contact.
- Don't lose contact with the community you are leaving behind. If possible visit your old community as often as you can. Over time you will create new relationships, but it takes time.
- Before you move, Try to make sure all medical records are sent to a new practitioner of your choice.
Deal with your emotions first and the physical aspects of a move second. Establish yourself in some way within the new community before you make the move. Assist your kids along the way instead of waiting for them to act out their needs. Use your real estate agent or other service agencies to help in the transition.
To contact Diane Dennis you can call her at 503-972-3441 or click here.