How to Find Lasting Love
Why do single Northwesterners find it hard to meet someone?
Four of the reasons are:
1. Ineffective Communication – how a single person initially communicates on their first few interactions with another single person can determine if the meeting turns into a date. Many single people, during an initial conversation, do not know how to articulate the values and attributes they seek in a potential partner and what they want in a partner to lead to a happy relationship.
Typically people ask about careers during a first conversation. Better questions to open the door to meaningful dialog are:
What are you most passionate about? What do you spend most of your time doing? What are some of your heart’s goals you want to reach? Share some of your biggest accomplishments? How have you positively impacted someone life?
As a single person you should reflect on these types of questions and know the answer and how to effectively communicate your responses to these questions. Be effective at communicating what is important to you in a partner. What your values are. Be cautious, as first impressions are powerful and people make judgments quickly.
Be conscientious of how you come across to another single person. Be discriminative in what to discuss with a new person. Think of being on a job interview. To be considered as one of the final candidates, during the interview you must address why your skills and experience are a match for the company. Same with a potential partner. Be aware of how you sound and the topics you discuss.
2. The longer single people live, it can be easy to become “set” and even “stuck” in certain ways and habits. Be careful not to turn down an invitation for a new date, just because their habit patterns differ from the ones you are accustomed to. Be open-minded. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
3. How can you become a truly happy, loving person if you don’t deal with your “issues” that caused a relationship break up or a fear of committing to one? Allowing reflection time by yourself to understand, heal and grow from past experiences can help you become more aware and attract the partner who will be a healthy fit and bring more joy to your life. This is important when searching for a lifetime partner.
* Get out and mingle, force yourself to step out of your comfort zone once and see what happens.
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