How to Unfriend a Friend
Undoing friendships is more complicated with social networking. Life Transitions Coach Diane Dennis had advice for breaking off the relationship.
In the “OLD DAYS” we used to make “polite” excuses if we didn’t want to accept an invite to a party. Now, you don’t go to the party, and your friends post a picture of you on facebook at another event the same evening, not looking at all like you have the FLU you told your “friend” you had.
Or, You have a party and don’t invite your “friend” because she is annoying, but pictures of your party are posted by all the jolly attendees on your social networking site, oops. (IF you don’t want your picture plastered on the internet, don’t have your picture taken! JUST SAY NO)
Your friends may have long roots. Example: The friend you no longer want to play bridge with has relationships with your other friends, and you all attend the same church. Word gets around that you changed the bridge night, but didn’t tell “her.”
Social networking disengagement:
Rules of dis-engagement.
1. Tell the truth, lined with kindness
2. Give an explanation, but without too much detail
3. Reminisce and honor your past friendships
4. If the reason is because they have a behavior that isn’t tolerable: Tell gentle truth