Marriage and Family Therapist Kelly Hoffman say if you've ever wondered if there is one thing you could do that would improve your relationships, improve your life, here it is: You must learn to respect your self and others.

What respect does not look like:
comebacks, put downs, negative talk, snide remarks, eye rolls, steam rolling, getting quiet, feeling resentful, hating, feeling frustrated, the usual suspects

Here's what respect does look like:
Kindness, courtesy, yeah yeah, but what about when someone disrespects you?!!
then it looks like BOUNDARIES!!! boundaries boundaries boundaries, did I mention boundaries.
People have such a hard time setting boundaries for others and respecting other peoples boundaries. In almost every relationship problem I see someone is either being a steam roller and squashing another persons boundaries, or someone is allowing themselves to be squashed.

Respect looks like emotion without vindictiveness if someone is hurting you. Respect looks like a willingness to acknowledge your steamroller tendency if you realize you are doing it or someone points it out to you.