Tough Questions to Ask Yourself

It's time to take stock of your life, before its too late! Confidence Coach Laure Redmond joined us with some tough questions to ask yourself. Laure says, "I’m old enough to be acquainted with life’s darkest places and young enough to endure more. What I know for sure is that there’s absolutely no merit to living life in fear, even when things get really scary and they will and they do. A true warrior moves through and with life, like water."

She shares these questions to ask yourself right now, no matter what your age or stage in life:
  1. How much have YOU really loved and been loved? What five people would you put on a lifeboat in case of a tsunami/earthquake/hurricane or any other realistic end of the world? Make a list. You can have lots of friends on Facebook, but at the end of the day, you’re lucky if you can find five people who truly have your back through happiness & sadness, sickness & health, rich or poor ... Let them know that if the world ends tomorrow, they’d be on your lifeboat.
  2. What is your personal Achilles heel or shadow? What are your unspoken demons? The stuff you keep in your closet under a lock? What are you most deeply afraid of? Say it out loud. Get real with yourself. It’s how you conquer them.
  3. Do you allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind? We live in a culture where we often form our opinions based on impressions or borrowed ideas of others. We then go around asserting these donned opinions and clinging to them as anchors to our own reality. It’s enormously disorienting to say, “I don’t know", but it’s infinitely more rewarding — even if that means changing your mind about a topic or an idea.
  4. Are you generous? Always remember: there is a human being on the other end of every exchange. To understand and be understood, those are among life’s greatest gifts. Every interaction is an opportunity to experience this.
  5. What do you love doing that you aren’t doing?  Furthermore, how could you get paid for doing what you love? It’s your right to be alive every second of the day. You’re not supposed to spend 8 hours a day (or less ... or more) on mental and physical distractions in order to cope with the depression of not doing what you love.
  6. Do you build pockets of stillness into your life? Meditate. Go for walks. Ride your bike going nowhere in particular. Dance. The best ideas come to us when we let the fragments of experience float around our unconscious mind. Without this essential stage of unconscious processing, the entire flow of the creative process is broken.
  7. What type of people bring you down and make you feel bad about yourself? Break up with them. Today. It’s not rejection, it’s selection. Life is short. You can’t invest your love in people who don’t want it and who use it to deplete you.
  8. How can you express yourself creatively?  Art (any kind) speaks directly to the heart. Pick a creative outlet, curiosity or passion and start practicing.
  9. How do you manage your time? If you’re a mess, it's time to get it together ~ make a schedule, write down your routine (to help you stick to it), come up with a productivity mantra.
  10. Fast-forward to your epitaph. What does it say?


Laure's wisdom is featured in the new book, Words that Matter: A Little Book of Life Lessons, from The Oprah Magazine. For more helpful information, visit Laure's blog.  She's also available for private coaching for individuals or groups.


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