News anchor: Viewer criticizing her weight a 'bully'
MILWAUKEE (AP) — Jennifer Livingston has always rebuffed personal attacks, so when the Wisconsin television anchorwoman got an email from a viewer criticizing her weight, she thought nothing of it.
But then she thought of her daughters and other children who may not have the same emotional shield.
Livingston took the airways Tuesday to respond to the email during a 4-minute segment on WKBT-TV in La Crosse, calling the writer a bully. She urged young viewers not to allow such people to define their self-worth.
She didn't identify the man, who wrote that he was surprised to see her physical condition hadn't improved for years. He told her that he hopes she doesn't consider herself a suitable example for young people, especially girls.
The man who wrote the email, Kenneth Krause, told The Associated Press in an interview that his emails had nothing to do with bullying.
Livingston, who has worked in broadcast journalism since 1997, said at least 1,000 people have posted supportive messages on her Facebook page and even more sent her emails. She said many wrote that they wished someone had stood up for them, including some who said they were bullied years ago "and it still haunts them today."
"It's not what this one particular man said to me," the 37-year-old said in a phone interview from the station. "It's the reaction that what I am saying back to him and bullies everywhere is impacting me. I am just shocked right now that the words of one journalist in small La Crosse, Wis., can make such a loud roar."
Livingston said she's been asked to appear on national morning shows Wednesday.
In his initial email, Krause wrote that "obesity is one of the worst choices a person can make," then urged Livingston to "reconsider your responsibility to present and promote a healthy lifestyle."
They exchanged a few emails, but Livingston said he wouldn't back down from his opinion that she was a bad role model. Krause, who wouldn't reveal his profession or age to the AP, said he no longer had the emails.
In her television response, Livingston acknowledged she was overweight but said the man's words were cruel. Livingston said she could brush off such comments but worried about children who didn't know how to do the same.
"To all of the children out there who feel lost, who are struggling with your weight, with the color of your skin, your sexual preference, your disability, even the acne on your face, listen to me right now: Do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies.
"Learn from my experience — that the cruel words of one are nothing compared to the shouts of many," she said on the air.
Her husband, who also is an anchor at the station, originally posted the email Friday on Facebook. Livingston didn't decide to address it on air until after a few local radio stations did segments on it and about bullying — and she thought about how her three young daughters would eventually face bullies.
"For me, it's not about him," she said. "It's about the culture of emails like his that not only come to us as journalists but to people all over the place and especially to our kids."
But then she thought of her daughters and other children who may not have the same emotional shield.
Livingston took the airways Tuesday to respond to the email during a 4-minute segment on WKBT-TV in La Crosse, calling the writer a bully. She urged young viewers not to allow such people to define their self-worth.
She didn't identify the man, who wrote that he was surprised to see her physical condition hadn't improved for years. He told her that he hopes she doesn't consider herself a suitable example for young people, especially girls.
The man who wrote the email, Kenneth Krause, told The Associated Press in an interview that his emails had nothing to do with bullying.
Livingston, who has worked in broadcast journalism since 1997, said at least 1,000 people have posted supportive messages on her Facebook page and even more sent her emails. She said many wrote that they wished someone had stood up for them, including some who said they were bullied years ago "and it still haunts them today."
"It's not what this one particular man said to me," the 37-year-old said in a phone interview from the station. "It's the reaction that what I am saying back to him and bullies everywhere is impacting me. I am just shocked right now that the words of one journalist in small La Crosse, Wis., can make such a loud roar."
Livingston said she's been asked to appear on national morning shows Wednesday.
In his initial email, Krause wrote that "obesity is one of the worst choices a person can make," then urged Livingston to "reconsider your responsibility to present and promote a healthy lifestyle."
They exchanged a few emails, but Livingston said he wouldn't back down from his opinion that she was a bad role model. Krause, who wouldn't reveal his profession or age to the AP, said he no longer had the emails.
In her television response, Livingston acknowledged she was overweight but said the man's words were cruel. Livingston said she could brush off such comments but worried about children who didn't know how to do the same.
"To all of the children out there who feel lost, who are struggling with your weight, with the color of your skin, your sexual preference, your disability, even the acne on your face, listen to me right now: Do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies.
"Learn from my experience — that the cruel words of one are nothing compared to the shouts of many," she said on the air.
Her husband, who also is an anchor at the station, originally posted the email Friday on Facebook. Livingston didn't decide to address it on air until after a few local radio stations did segments on it and about bullying — and she thought about how her three young daughters would eventually face bullies.
"For me, it's not about him," she said. "It's about the culture of emails like his that not only come to us as journalists but to people all over the place and especially to our kids."
The real bully is the news anchor not the viewer.
 @sortbait please do enlighten us....and no, I am not obese.
 @sortbait That's what I thought. The dude had no right to make it personal. We had Charles Barkley in town when "I'm not a role model" came out. The dude is right. Role models should not be sports figures or news anchors. The guy should have kept his comments to himself instead of using his mom's computer. He was the bully as soon as he harassed somebody he has never met.
When the comments become personal like this something is wrong. There is no comment on whether she is a good anchor or not. There's no comment on whether the news station is good at reporting the news or not. Her health, weight, or any other personal fact, should remain personal. I like how she's addressed it head on and maybe this can spark a healthy debate about lifestyle choices and national concerns that add to the cost of healthcare, but they should be conversations of respect and mutual interest for the betterment of our society. There's no place for personal attacks on either side of any issue.Â
YAY to you Jennifer!!! And for most of you idiots on here??? Weight can be changed with close monitoring...unfortunately it will take brain surgery to change most of you. Look in the mirror and show us your flaws.
Good for her!
1. We constantly see tall skinny models. We see actresses who are skinny, photochopped and lots of make-up... all of this encouraging our young girls to starve themselves, have cosmetic surgery or feel horrible because they are not "perfect" like they see in the magazines or tv! Then other kids bully and put down anyone who looks or acts a little different! I would much rather have my daughters see this woman who has a successful career on tv no matter how she looks (and I'm not saying she looks bad)  than try to be like the stick thin "perfect" models! The problem with weight issues that we have is not that there is someone overweight on tv, it's the fact that we are hit up with all the tall skinny people in the magazines, see McDonalds every other block and all the junk food on all the commercials and people are planted in front of the tv all the time. We should work on healthy advertising, average people in the magazines and getting people more active.
2. Putting people down for their size does not help them get healthier, it pushes them to eat more, try suicide, etc. so pointing out to someone that they are overweight (which they already know) ... IS BULLYING!
3. People who have to tell other people of their flaws or problems... have huge self-esteem issues. They have to point it out to someone else so they feel better about themselves. Sad, but true.
What the? He didn't call her fat, she used that term to describe herself. And bullying? When did it become bullying to hold a mirror up to someone and show them the truth? We are a broken society when obesity is an EPIDEMIC that kills one in eight people and someone can't even talk about it or point out the issue without being labeled a bully. Further, her aired response is an attempt to play the victim.
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And these stats were in 2003..things have only gotten worse.
 @criticalreason 'When did it become bullying to hold a mirror up to someone and show them the truth? '
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Just because someone feels empowered to 'hold a mirror up to someone and show them the truth' doesn't make it noble, or right to do so. If someone spend their idle time composing emails (or posts on an internet forum) that are blatantly judgemental, and disrespectful, that is the very definition of being a bully.Â
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To borrow a childrens truism- If you don't have something nice to say, SAY NOTHING.
 @MarkKpic People have addictions to food, just like other drugs. If we all just waited until the addict asked for help there would be even more deaths (from food or drugs).
 @criticalreason  @MarkKpic Justification is a part of self-enabling behavior.  Hyper-critical tendencies can also be an addictive behavioral pattern. Perhaps the littany of responses you are receiving on your position are others attempts at 'showing concern' for someone who is obviously 'struggling with' an addiction.Â
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Given your posts on the subject, I think it's pretty obvious that we're not in agreement on the subject. Suffice it to say, I tend to believe that someone who would feel compelled to 'show concern' by telling a news anchor that they're overweight, and they should make better choices isn't attempting to 'help' them in any way, shape or form. What I believe they were intent on doing is what so many people make a past time of in this day and age. Being hypercritical and judgemental behind a keyboard.Â
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BTW... someone who reads copy nightly about what's going on in the world, IMO, is a sad role model for anyone. Celebrity is not a synonym for 'role model'. Perhaps the problem is in people idolotry, not with her weight.
 @MarkKpic So you can't ever show concern for someone if you see they are struggling with something? We should always wait for permission to share? Why is it "not nice" to point out someone is overweight, especially someone who is in the public eye and could be seen as a role model? He sent the message to her, not to the public. She made it public.
@criticalreason YES??? Well...let's see a photo of you. I'll bet you're less than perfection yourself. Trouble is...you would need a lobotmy to change your brain. I doubt you can afford that...moron.
 @Bewitchin1 Wow. Why so angry? You can see me in person most days at the gym. I'll be the one doing weights and running on the treadmill.
 @leapfrogger  @Bewitchin1 2/3rds of Americans are overweight or obese, that's crap ton of doctor's visits. And who's to say I haven't walked in their shoes? I understand addiction, and denial.Â
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I also see the newscaster alarmingly outing this person in public for what was a private conversation. Playing the victim won't help her get healthy.
 @criticalreason  @Bewitchin1 @criticalreason It's your obvious superiority complex that is so infuriating.  Just because you (think) you're the epitome of health & perfection that you have the right to judge others. Until you have walked a mile in someone else shoes, you have no idea the demons that lurk inside of them. Your blanket exercise & food advice may work for you but may not work for others. Often obese people have psychological issues at work in them. One of them could be all the advice from those "kind heart" souls who think they know what is best for fat people because they are skinny. It would be better to refer them to proper health care specialists for a personal assessment.
 @criticalreason Hello.  I understand what you're saying but take this from a person who has fought obesity all of his life.  I do not eat junk food, I do not eat a ton of food (I keep it to about 1,500-1,700 calories per day) and I run 5k 3-4 times per week.  I am not on any blood pressure, cholestrol or diabetic drugs and I have  a clean bill of health from my doc.  But in the end I am "obese" as defined by the medical community and am the subject of your comments above.  And while I do agree that there are those out there who are obese by choice I do not agree to make blanket statements to apply to all.
 @pinkfloydfan123 Oh and shoot for a 1/2 marathon. I don't see too many obese people running 1/2s and full marathons with me.
 @pinkfloydfan123 Good luck with your first marathon.
 @pinkfloydfan123 Like I said, you're the exception then.
 @criticalreason I did 2 5k runs this year, a 1/2 marathon in the Spring and I'm signed up for my first marathon this month (in 2 weeks, actually).  Yet, I go to the doctor and I'm "obese."
 @pinkfloydfan123 Good for you for making healthy choices. I would submit you are the exception, not the rule. If what you say is true. Also, add in weights and some biking. Also, what kind of calories matter as much as totals. Lean protein and veggies take a long time to add up to 1700 cals...
 @criticalreason My wife is a veggie fanatic and only buys lean meats.  I agree with exercising.  I do ride my bike but I prefer to run. Â
 @criticalreason  I'll agree that obesity is preventable. the first step is to remove HFCS from the food chain. The second step is to make fresh fruits and vegeys available at prices that make them truly affordable. Third is to make the streets safe for kids to be able to go out and play until the street lights come on.Â
 @No Name HFCS isn't going away easily, but people can make healthy choices nonetheless. Some personal accountability is a must. And regarding access to fresh food, Portland is a pioneer..
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And, I can't speak to children's public safety, except to say Portland is pretty darn safe comparatively speaking. Again, I guess some personal and community responsibility is needed.
What a great role model for young girls! A woman who has achieved success that can't be attributed to being a Barbie Doll. You go, girl!Â
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As for people who choose to comment on another person's appearance, they apparently never learned to mind their own business.Â
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I am a vibrant, larger woman. I am a mother, a teacher, and I can run a 10K. I enjoy my life. It's not all about how much you weigh, people. It's about who you are and how you treat others.Â
Ever hear of a woman bullying anyone? Â She IS fat, go find work someplace else Tons-Of-Fun
 @archon312 MMMM, intelligent comment from you. You must be in the first grade still. Loser
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Hey Jen....... you're not only obese..... you are MORBIDLY obese.  I would humbly suggest four simple words to live by........
Move more, eat less.
 @kramr And you're perfect? Let's see your picture I want to judge you by your looks alone and determine how worthwhile you are to the world and your family. Your "humble" comment stems only from your superiority complex!Â
@leapfrogger         nope not perfect, not even close....and I'm not suggesting anyone even strive to be perfect.......that would be you. I am a few pounds overweight but NOT obese much less morbidly obese. one's worth is determined by whats on the inside, however she should be a better roll model to her kids...... lead by example
She is overweight and she is a role model. I suppose the guy could have said something that could be considered bullying but the fact is she should lose a few pounds.
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My comment is an opinion - covered under free speech. I have not slandered anyone nor denigrated anyone. I am not the one trying to ignorantly define bullying - she is. Again that is my opinion. Life is full of rude people. How about we start caling the police every time a customer cuts us off in line, when a mother scolds her child with profanity and on and on. Under hers and I assume your definition that is bullying? That is fine, and your right to feel that way. Its when we want to start criminalizing that or in some way make it an offense to critisize - I have a problem with that. People are free to be jerks and we encounter them every day. The law defines when that line is crossed if there is physical contact or in the case of road rage in some states as a few examples. Under her definition any critisism is bullying. That is her opinion. I simply disagree.
So SHE decided to make the issue public. SHE defined it as bullying. I say SHE is the bully for doing those two things. She is a public person and you can bet your butt that many TV stations use viewers opinions - however wrong - to decide who is thier public face. As stated on here by someone else. It was rude - not bullying. So we cannot tell our military people anymore that they are fat - cause thier feelings might get hurt. People who are comfortable in thier bodies - good for you. Is it rude for someone to say to your face that you are overweight - No. But its free speech. And that my friends trumps yours and my hurt feelings.
 @wvboy Kenneth Krause..doesn't have the grapefruits to tell his comments to her face. He was given the opportunity but declined. Oh, but (bless his heart) still offered to help her if she wanted to lose weight!  The fact that he is more then happy to criticize someone from behind the safety of his keyboard but isn't willing to tell it to her face not only makes him a bully but a coward too!Â
 @wvboy She's bringing it to light and clearly her station is ok with sending a message that its not ok to bully people or be mean like this. Simple.Â
I've lived with Crohn's disease for 30 years. I have never nor will ever be "fat". Photos of family events throughout the years show me as emaciated to the bone or puffed up from the medication.
Stop judging people by the way they look. It's not what's on the outside that matters but what's in their minds and heart. This lady was presenting the news, entertainment et al; she was not at a fashion show.
Good for her for sticking up for herself and the positive message she gave bullied people.
Kenneth Krause = prissy.
I don't miss him at all
Yup. Â Something seriously wrong with that guy.
I'm 6'4 and I weigh 245 pounds. I am overweight by 30 pounds... and I feel it. Americans are too fat... It's the joke of the world, but I don't consider the rest of the world is trying to be a bully, they are simply pointing out the obvious.
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So, just to be clear... Does she call her doctor a bully when s/he says "you need to lose weight?"
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The viewer isn't a bully so much as a tactless rube... as with most people that offer unsolicited advice.
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âNo diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain, you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office.â George Bernard Shaw
 @Bob McMasterson I saw an episode of the show "Taboo" where the women of this country (I can't remember which country) are cherished, coveted and desired to be fat. A man would not desire a woman unless she was. Now how they got there disturbed me but it is their culture. So, not every country or society in the world looks down on fat women (men it seems more often are not condemned as much as women.)Â
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>'"To all of the children out there who feel lost, who are struggling with your weight, with the color of your skin, your sexual preference, your disability, even the acne on your face, listen to me right now: Do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies."Learn from my experience â that the cruel words of one are nothing compared to the shouts of many,"
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I'm reminded of the words of Martin Luther King, Jr.
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'I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.'
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I would humbly offer the ammendment 'not by the color of their skin, their weight, how white their teeth are, or perfect their hair. Not by their religeous beliefs, their level of education, their political affiliations, their weath, ability to speak english, or the amount of money in their bank accounts, but by the content of their character.'
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Your character, Ms Livingston, is as admirable as any person I've met. A well considered reply to an email that exhibited a lack of the same.Â
 @MarkKpic Yeah except people can't change the color of their skin but obesity is more often than not a lifestyle choice. An incorrect comparison if I've ever seen one.
 @criticalreason  @MarkKpic Judgements are easy, and more often than not founded in a persons insecurities about themselves.Â
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Her choices, her body weight, the clothes she wears and how she styles her hair may very well be choices... but they are HER choices. Just as it is YOUR choice to make a judication about her based on those things.Â
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I would rather present someone who is obese to my child as a role model than someone who is judgemental, and condemning of others.Â
 @MarkKpic When was I judgmental or condemning? I have legitimate concern for obese people. It serves them no good, in my opinion, to deny they have a health problem that needs fixing (perhaps psychological and physical).
It's nice to know that people continue to only judge by outward appearance and without fact of someone's personal life. Let's just say she has a medical condition that has caused her weight gain? Maybe she has been on prednisone?  What if she recently had a baby? Maybe SHE is happy with herself just the way she is. Just because a person is thin does not mean they are healthy. But yet most of you would judge them to be a better person because they're thin! If you smoke, drink, do drugs or eat lots of fatty food but are skinny makes a person just as unhealthy as someone overweight. A thin person can have just as many health risks as a heavy person. A heavy person who works out is healthier then a skinny person who sits on the duff all day.  And for that jerk who emailed her and said she should be a better role model? She's not a role model just because she's on tv! A more appropriate role model to be disappointed with is when you go to the doctor's office and the nurses and/or doctor is fat. How about fat police officers? There's someone I don't look up to.  The only people this lady is a role model to is her children. She doesn't have to answer to anyone of us and shouldn't have to defend herself against some self righteous horses rear end who feels he is superior and has the right to tell her what HE thinks she should do with her life.  Too bad he's only brave enough to put her down from behind a computer.Â
 @leapfrogger Major high five to you.Â
 @MagicMoose  @leapfrogger Amen!
 @leapfrogger Preach brother/sister. Preach!
 @leapfrogger Bravo!!! Well said!!