She just kept saying, 'I'm going to kill you.'

She just kept saying, 'I'm going to kill you.' »Play Video
Roger Bethke.

VANCOUVER, Wash. - A man on Friday described the feeling of having a gun pressed against the back of his head as he lay in bed. Police said the gun was held by that man's very own wife.

"It hasn't really sunk in yet," said Roger Bethke.

He and his wife, Gayle, were calling it quits after nine years of marriage. Last Friday, while in bed in their Vancouver home, Roger said when he told her he didn't want to talk about splitting up their belongings, things took a turn. He said his wife pointed a gun right in the back of his head. But he wrestled it away.

"When I had her on the ground, she tried to face it towards me. I could see her hand on the trigger just trying to squeeze hard. It was white and red color trying to push the trigger," he said. "I wouldn’t even have had a chance to do anything if it wasn't on safety.

"She just kept saying, 'I'm going to kill you. I'm going to kill you. But I had the gun in my hand already," Roger said.

Gayle has made her first court appearance and Roger now has a restraining order against her.

"It's always been in the afternoon when she started drinking,” he said.

He said it wasn't the first time she's gone after him.

"(She) didn't like what I said to her ... starts hitting me with a bat. I've got to cover up then take it away," he said. "Couple times she came after me with a knife (and) pretended like she was going to do something and didn't."

But he said he still cares for her but "I just wish it'd never happened that way."