Study: Men who do dishes have less sex
SEATTLE - A man who helps his wife with housework does not have more sex than a man who sticks to "manly" chores, a new study found.
"Media interest in the debate has crystallized around claims that men who participate in housework get more sex," the authors of the study in the February 2013 edition of The American Sociological Review write.
Not so, according to researchers at the University of Washington.
A new study "found that married couples who report having the most sex are those in which men do a greater share of 'typically male' tasks and women do a greater share of 'typically female' tasks.
"Results show that both husbands and wives in couples with more traditional housework arrangements report higher sexual frequency, suggesting the importance of gender display rather than marital exchange for sex between heterosexual married partners," the study authors wrote.
The researchers argue "this is because in marriages, spouses perceive their partners as very feminine or very masculine when they do gender-typical housework. Over time, greater perceptions of masculinity or femininity lead to more attraction and thus more sex."
I am a single male who does his dishes daily, and I probably have a lot more sex than a majority of married people, so the study is kind of a crock as far as I'm concerned.
I don't see this as negative. I fix the cars, do the heavy lifting and am the primary wage earner and my girlfriend makes my house a home. We're both satisfied with the arrangement and if she was unhappy with it then she's a grown-up who's perfectly capable of breaking up with me or renegotiating our social contract. It's bothersome that people want to force alternative gender-roles on my household.
so, on to other things, does anyone consider driving home to be an act of foreplay? lol
Real men can do both at the same time!
My wife found this article amusing, but incorrect.
Not as far as I'm concerned. The sink makes a great place to hold on to. It's just the right height. Singing loudly and excitedly in my kitchen is totally allowed. This study is a pile of bovine sourced fertilizer.
 @Hoser Ignatz Singing loudly??
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 @Dr. Rawdog pretty much
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as long as you put the seat down when you are done......
 @WendyTeagarden i put the seat AND the lid down so you have to put it up just like us guys.
I was told by an old friend when I first got married, "everytime you have sex for the first two years of marriage put a jellybean in a jar, and after the two years take one out everytime you have sex and you will never empty the jar." (i thought it was a joke so i never tried it)Â
 @old_dollor Don't fret it.  If you'd done it, you'd be out of the good black ones and most of the red.  But you'd probably still have all the yellows and greens and they'd be really old and . . . well, you get it.
I know this came from American Sociological Review, which oddly, does not have a facing in the rack next to US, People, and the National Enquirer as I'm in my local grocery checkout line. And I love how they hi-lite the fact that "debate has crystalized..." over what? Over the correlation between household chores and sex? How many millions in federal grant money went into this earth-shattering study? Look, the guy is getting sex somewhere, and if he's doing more to help his wife, and she's not responding in the bedroom, then..well..you do the math. Â
Maybe it's just me, but being a parent I don't have time to wash dishes for anyone that is tall enough to reach the sink and understands the functions of warm water, dish soap, and a sponge. I have enough crap to clean on a daily basis, if someone is hungry and they need a clean dish and they know how to wash then they are all set. I absolutely hate doing the dishes and will do whatever I can to get out of doing them. My ex didn't have a problem doing them and he still got the same amount of nookie. And lucky for me, I got clean dishes!
 @galway_girl So, you stopped being attracted to him.
 @galway_girl your EX.. that says he did mind doing the dishes.
A waste of time.
A man washing up the dishes in my kitchen has always been an aphrodisiac for me ; )
and for a lot of other gals I know.
 @whirledworld Would you rather have a man who bends over backwards to please you or a calm, confident man that knows who he is and what he wants?
 @rich A calm confident man is a man who knows and enjoys the art of seduction which includes washing dishes, plying me with chocolate and...
 @rich  @whirledworld Just because they do the dishes doesn't mean they are bending over backwards to please you. My husband does the dishes and cleans the counters because I do the shopping, clean the fridge, and plan/cook dinner. It's not about him bending over backwards, it's about dividing up chores so that no one is burned out and spending all their "free" time doing chores.
 @whirledworld Do you have any dishes that need washing???
 @Pointblank Oh dear...you'll have to get in line and hope there is a vacancy.
 @whirledworld You just take us for granted.
 @32jim2 Not at all! A man who knows how to catch a lady's attention in a good way is a smart man. Appreciation would be the correct term. ; )
I would imagine so. After all, what kind of woman would be attracted to a man who is constantly doing what she herself imagines to be "women's work," as though he were a hired maid? The psychology just doesn't work.
 @Whobeke Growing up in a household of 10 where the dishes were chores everyone had to take turns at (because everyone ate off those dishes); it never occurred to any of us sisters or brothers there was any gender attachment to various chores whether it was dishes, lawn-mowing, etc. All kids were equal slaves in our household and in most all the families we knew. If you were told to do the chores, you did the chores unless you were somehow clever enough to slide that chore onto the next younger sibling with some fast talk or bribery. LOL
 @Whobeke "women's work?" I hope you're being sarcastic.
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"Study: Men who do dishes have less sex"Â Even if they use the ol' bottle brush?
This survey just shows how twisted our society is.. If eats in the house he can help clean the dishes., if not move along masculine man.. Whatever ?
 @dougrpdx And just because I love to play devil's advocate do you help with the more masculine chores?  Do the brakes and oil on the car?  Mow the lawn and dig holes for trees and shrubs when need?  Climb under the house to repair a pipe or snake the clogged toilet?  If you live in my house and maintain that attitude I would expect you to!
 @Bodagris  @dougrpdx We've always divided up the chores so that things are more even. We don't do a lot of work on the vehicles, but we do share in the work. With my health issues, climbing under a car isn't happening, but I keep all the fluids in check, change filters, etc. We don't have a yard (and maintenance is done by the landlord), so that isn't an issue, but when we lived with my parents while looking for our place, we took turns mowing the "lawn" (my parents live on 4 acres). Both of us unclog sinks and toilets - whoever finds it is usually the one who does it.
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You can divide up chores without making them "men's work" or "women's work". Many of the things that are considered "man's work" are occasional things, while "women's work" typically are done every single day. Dividing things up that way - especially if both people work and/or there are kids - just ends up with one person overly tired, overworked, and resentful towards the other.
@dougrpdx ....so something as stupid as this gets turned into a societal issue? Try deep breathing !
I can prove anything if you pay me enough.
Bull! Mine would get more if he did any dishes at all!
It's funny I read this. Â I hardly ever do the dishes and tonight when I came home from work I saw the dishes needed done and I was going to do them....now I'm not. Â I'm also going to have my wife read this so she knows I can't do the dishes for obvious reasons...
 @Common Sence lol...
Men who don't do dishes aren't going to get any nookie at all.
@Luckylucy .......or get lucky, eh Lucy?
And how much Money was wasted on this study?....
My wife and I split duties and the kitchen is my domain... I cook and clean it. Of course, my father was a cook/ restaurant manager and I managed to learn most of his culinary/kitchen skills. My wife appreciates my efforts, but I don't do it for the booty. I do it cause it's my duty :D
 @Bob McMasterson Hello Bob, I've been the cook in the house for, well, a long damned time.
I pay someone to do my dishes.Â
Yeah that's right, I pay for it.
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"Men who do dishes have less sex"
That's a no-brainer.
What misogynistic 18-year-old fratboy intern crapped up this nonsense?In my house we work as a team and nobody ever asked, nor do we care, if we have more or less of a love life than the sexist redneck down the street who expects that a woman's place is in the kitchen and the man's is behind the mower.
 @Playanekes The results of the research make sense to me. Perhaps you're just atypical. BTW, not every article on this website is some kind of "nonsense".
@Playanekes .......boy, it sure doesn't take much to put you up on the ceiling does it?