Are 'bad' moms suddenly in?

Are 'bad' moms suddenly in? »Play Video
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PORTLAND, Ore. - There's a new trend in the blogosphere - moms rebelling against the notion that they have to be perfect in order to raise perfect kids.

Back in the day, it was a cinch to know what it meant to be a 'good mom.'  There was Donna Reed, who embodied 1950s motherhood - always there, wise and involved from afar.  And of course, exceedingly well dressed.

Today, it's difficult to define what exactly an ideal mother is.  It's as if we've taken Donna Reed's image and put it on steroids.

"We've kind of professionalized parenting," said Carl Honore, author of Under Pressure: Rescuing Our Children from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting. "There's a feeling now that on the front line of child rearing, that raising a kid now is all or nothing."

That's what it was for mother Melissa Chapman - all or nothing.

"Monday was dance, Tuesday was art, Wednesday was piano, Thursday was gymnastics and we were also going to do Girl Scouts," she said.  "At one point I signed up to be a Girl Scout leader.  I was like, I should just shoot myself in the head!"

Chapman said she just didn't want to make any mistakes and yet she still wondered if she was a good mother.  And she is not alone. Many mothers feel her pain.

Blogs have started popping up now, rebelling against the notion that mothers have to be perfect or raise perfect children.

Ayelet Waldman, a loud and proud mother who blogs at Her Bad Mother: Bad is the New Good, wrote "I have left my children alone in the bathtub.  I have spanked my daughter.  I drink.  I curse."

Does this mean over parenting is over?

"I don't think it's over," Waldman said.  "We're not going to turn on a dime here but I do think there's a backlash against over parenting."

And Waldman ought to know.  In 2005, she was viciously publicly attacked for writing in an essay that she loves her husband more than her children.

"Ok, so fast forward now four years and I publish this book called Bad Mother and the conversation and the response is totally different.  And I think in this weird way, the world has kind of caught up to what I was saying."

She could be right.  Chapman said she no longer over schedules her kids, she actually talks to her husband and has even started believing she is a good mom.

The economy may be forcing the issue.  Parents now cannot spend all that money for their kids to take lessons.  Instead, the kids stay home.