Couple named 'longest married' in U.S. at 80 years

FAIRFIELD, Conn. (AP) - John and Ann Betar weren't supposed to get married. Her father had arranged for her to wed another man, but she and John fled Bridgeport and eloped in New York.
That was more than 80 years ago. The couple is still happily hitched, a fact that has led to their naming as the "longest married couple" in the U.S. for 2013 by Worldwide Marriage Encounter, a Christian marriage group based in San Bernardino, Calif.
The Betars are scheduled to receive a plaque and other gifts from the group at their granddaughter's home in Fairfield on Saturday.
They told the New York Daily News that there are no secrets to a long marriage, only a few simple rules.
"We just live with contentment and we don't live beyond our means," John Betar said. "Just go with the flow."
John's now 101 years old and Ann is 97, and they're still living in their home along the Fairfield shore. They had five children, 14 grandchildren and 16 great grandchildren. Two of their children died in their 60s.
Ron and Judy Pekny of Worldwide Marriage Encounter say the title of "longest married couple" is based on nominations the group received, so there may be some couples who have been married longer.
John and Ann grew up across the street from each other in Bridgeport, and John used to drive Ann to high school in his Ford Roadster. They fell in love. When her father arranged for her to marry someone else, they eloped in Harrison, N.Y., about 25 miles north of New York City.
John went on to open a grocery store in Bridgeport.
Ann Betar told the Hearst Connecticut Media Group around their 80th anniversary in November that family has been a key to their longevity.
"That's what makes life what it is," she said. "We were fortunate enough to live long enough to see this ... and it's really one of the most gratifying things in the world to see your great-grandchildren, to see your grandchildren become adults."
John Betar added, "That's what keeps us alive. We live for them."
That was more than 80 years ago. The couple is still happily hitched, a fact that has led to their naming as the "longest married couple" in the U.S. for 2013 by Worldwide Marriage Encounter, a Christian marriage group based in San Bernardino, Calif.
The Betars are scheduled to receive a plaque and other gifts from the group at their granddaughter's home in Fairfield on Saturday.
They told the New York Daily News that there are no secrets to a long marriage, only a few simple rules.
"We just live with contentment and we don't live beyond our means," John Betar said. "Just go with the flow."
John's now 101 years old and Ann is 97, and they're still living in their home along the Fairfield shore. They had five children, 14 grandchildren and 16 great grandchildren. Two of their children died in their 60s.
Ron and Judy Pekny of Worldwide Marriage Encounter say the title of "longest married couple" is based on nominations the group received, so there may be some couples who have been married longer.
John and Ann grew up across the street from each other in Bridgeport, and John used to drive Ann to high school in his Ford Roadster. They fell in love. When her father arranged for her to marry someone else, they eloped in Harrison, N.Y., about 25 miles north of New York City.
John went on to open a grocery store in Bridgeport.
Ann Betar told the Hearst Connecticut Media Group around their 80th anniversary in November that family has been a key to their longevity.
"That's what makes life what it is," she said. "We were fortunate enough to live long enough to see this ... and it's really one of the most gratifying things in the world to see your great-grandchildren, to see your grandchildren become adults."
John Betar added, "That's what keeps us alive. We live for them."
I love reading stories like this. Just puts a smile on your face.
Wait a minute...He was 21 and she was just a child of 17...and he took her across state lines against her fathers wishes. Amber alert and DCS and MAN Act....this could turn out horribly.Â
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Best wishes to the happy couple for the next 80.
Congratulations !! My God, what these two have seen in their time together.
Happy 80th Anniversary! Can you image their huge family tree and their stories to pass down to future generations? AMAZING!!
Longevity in marriage is not common anymore. I feel like I have been married a long time at about 40 years but in comparison to these folks it is nothing.
What a beautiful story. Hooray for them!
35 down, 45 more to go.....I don't think I'll make it.
 @WendyTeagarden Not with that attitude you won't.
I'm not the one making posts about "my ex...."
So what is the proper gift for an 80th Anniversary???????
 @WendyTeagarden ~ According to Wikipedia, at 80th anniversary, the "modern" gifts are listed as "diamond, pearl"...  There isn't anything listed for the 80th under "traditional", I guess because the "milestone" here is the 75th anniversary...Â
.....depends
 @WendyTeagarden Crap...Should have scrolled down one more. You win this time Wendy...
 @WendyTeagarden Wait for it.................Geritol.
 @Kushfan  @WendyTeagardenÂ
I though it was roller blades.
 @RalphCramden  @Kushfan  @WendyTeagarden Eh, Depends...
Good for them, I would just like to live to 80.
I would love to see a photo of them 80 years ago too. They are still a gorgeous couple!  Congratulations to them! I wish I could be married to my wonderful husband for 80 years, but we met later in life and married in our 40's and are incredibly happy. He is my best friend - not only do I love him, but I LIKE him too. He puts a smile on my face every day. I wish that for everyone - to find that someone to share their life with that make them happy for as long as they live.
AP has a photo:
http://www.sfgate.com/news/us/article/Conn-couple-named-longest-married-in-US-4255223.php#photo-3780670
 @WendyTeagarden ~  Oh, thank you for sharing that link, Wendy..!  What an absolutely charming wedding photo..!  Â
This couple must be doing something right... if I'd had to guess their ages (without knowing how long they'd been married), I would not have guessed anything close to their real ages... Â :-)
 @margay1  @WendyTeagarden That's an amazing photo - thank you!! They look so happy then and now too!Â
 @Justanother1 Wow. My wife just tolerates me.