I have been at my job for 4 years now. There was a very unexpected opening for a promotion a few weeks ago.. To my surprise, the job was given to another employee who had been here 2 weeks! I was the clear candidtate for this job, as I had expressed times before that I would love to learn that job if there ever was a chance.. I was so upset, I felt so betrayed.
I am a person who avoids confrontation at all costs, I wanted so badly to ask WHY!?!?! What did I do wrong... But just couldn't bring myself to do it.
Finally, a week later, I was called into a meeting with my direct overhead boss and her exact words were, and I quote ;" Now, I know you feel very hurt and upset at the fact that you were passed up for this promotion. I wanted you to know that you were first up for the job, but after careful consideration, I came to the conclusion that you need to focus on your kids at home. I Don't feel that you could dedicate the hours needed " .
Needless to say, I am now left even more confused than before that conversation! So now what? Does that mean I can't go any further in my career until my kids are 18?!? This can't be okay! And to make it worse, in this economy I can't find another decent paying job, so I am stuck working for people who think I am incapable because I am a mother.